Do you ever catch yourself using a certain phrase or specific word over and over? Maybe you pick it up from a coworker or friend, or maybe a specific time of your life leads to discussions where a word becomes particularly appropriate. In either case, it’s not something you’ve noticed yourself saying before; but in recent moments, it seems to circulate the air around you, to enter your lungs, and to accompany itself with each breath.
A few days ago, I realized that I’ve been using one specific word in my discussions more than usual.
GRACE.
It’s a term that I’m used to. It’s an idea that I have been around a majority of my life. Grace is a beautiful gift that I am granted daily, but despite that, it rarely finds its way into my conversations. The last week, though, I’ve been talking about the many facets of this idea – grace – a lot.
It’s not intentional whatsoever – it just happens. The perfect opening presents itself, and before I know it, a work-related conversation has me talking about grace like it’s a pen on my desk. It’s just there. I can sense it. I can use it, if I’d like. I can accept it.
What is grace though? What is it’s purpose? It’s one of those churchy words that seems to have little or no place in everyday life. Grace is an intangible idea that probably feels senseless to use, hopeless to rely upon, or restless at which to grasp. But I would like to fiercely argue the opposite.
The definitions of grace, according to dictionary.com include the following:
1) elegance or beauty of form, manner, motion, or action
2) favor or goodwill
3) mercy; clemency; pardon
In short, I think grace is unconditional love. How often does this world act against us? How often does someone hurt us? How often do good intentions get turned around? How many times do we lie, betray, fall short of the people we’re meant to be? Such is life! Perfection does not exist, and therefore we are imperfect people. That does not mean that we cannot actively forgive the ugliness in the world, or grant this life the kind of love that we hope for in return.
I have had the beautiful experience of witnessing immeasurable amounts of grace among my life for the last few years. As I sit here writing this post, I’m honestly overwhelmed. I’ve felt it personally, I’ve seen others receive it (knowingly and unknowingly), and I have tried whole-heartedly to grant it to other people. Grace is every where we turn, waiting for us, and if we pay close enough attention, we can see how it shapes our lives.
While grace may seem like a concept that only belongs in a church, I think it’s far more accessible than even I’ve realized. Grace is not an idea too lofty for your or me.
Grace. Unconditional love.
Even more so, it is active and proactive unconditional love. It is preventative. It is protective. Unconditional love provides safety before we’re ever in danger, comfort before we’re ever uncomfortable, and consistency before we ever fear disruption.
A visiting pastor at my church talked about this very thing, saying something that I say and write countless times! (I was ecstatic to hear him agree with me.) He said that that we are “meant to be with people.” We are not meant to live this life alone. The concept of “with,” he said simply, is the ultimate act of love. Above all other things, we are meant to show up. To support. To encourage. To hold accountable. To go with. To be with. To show grace. To love people where they are, unconditionally.
I have endured a lot of difficulty. I’ve watched the people I love do the same…desperately fight for various forms of freedom – freedom from depression, anxiety, alcoholism, bad relationships, work troubles, poor self esteem, sickness, fear. I have been on the giving and receiving end of trouble. Similarly, I have been on the giving and receiving end of grace. Knowing that I am granted grace, despite my unworthiness, has been the motivation of my life. I want to be with people. I want to love, unconditionally. I want to be a reminder that grace is available; it’s there for the taking. It’s the one perfect idea in this imperfect world.
Unconditional love and grace come in many forms. A second chance. An apology. A recovery. Therapy. A new day. Healed wounds. Dried tears. Encouragement. A good piece of advice. Conversation. Safety. Belief. Unconditional love and grace – these are things that I am granted every day by my God, my family, my friends, my loved ones. It surrounds me, and I hope you feel it surround you as well.
Long story short, I suppose I’ve been talking about grace because I see grace more beautifully than I ever have. I am humbled to realize that the greatest gift I can give others is something I also need daily. So whether I keep talking about it or not (because we all know I love to talk), I will always continue to show it. Have you ever recognized moments of grace in your life? How has unconditional love been shown to you?